I have been a dad for 13 1/2 long years now. LOL Don’t let that fool you that I ain’t happy. I am extremely happy and I love my kids. I have 3 wonderful kids now and I’m proud of all of them in different ways.
My wife and I want one more child. We got pregnant about 4 months ago and we were both excited. I was excited but I don’t believe that my wife thought so. I just get excited in a different way because while I’m excited, I am also full of worry. Worrying about bills and that we need a new car (mini-van) and that we would have 4 kids in a 3 bedroom house. There was so much going on in my head!
My wife wasn’t feeling right and she went to her doctor. I got the phone call from her and all I heard was sobbing. I KNEW something was wrong but I didn’t know exactly what. She eventually told me that we lost the baby. We had a miscarriage and my heart just fell. I wasn’t even with her to hold her!
When she got home we both cried. We couldn’t believe it. Why did this happen? What caused it? Could we have done something, anything so this didn’t happen??? The doctor told us that this happens sometimes. It’s no ones fault. The doctor also said something about a blood clotting disorder that is brought on by a previous pregnancy and she said that this is getting fairly common. If it’s getting fairly common, then why don’t doctors check pregnant women when they are first pregnant?
Anyway, my wife had to have 2 D&C’s done because the first one wasn’t done correctly. I felt so horrible for my wife. I could only imagine what she was going through. But, I had to be strong, I NEEDED to be strong for her, a shoulder to cry on. I did what I could and can only hope that it was enough for her.
It has been alittle over 2 weeks since the last D&C and she is finally getting “better”, if you can say that. We won’t forget our little “peanut”. We hadn’t named him/her yet, but we will NEVER forget!