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Single Fatherhood: Taking Care of Them Means Taking Care of Yourself

‘Single father': it is tough to think of two scarier words for a man. There are all kinds of heroes in the world. Fire fighters, police officers, soldiers, doctors: all are heroes. None are any more heroic than single dads. Unfortunately, they do not get the recognition they deserve.

There are responsibilities common to all parents. Being a single dad makes even the most common parenting tasks exponentially more difficult. Some parenting tasks are even tougher for single dads in this society than for single moms. But as difficult as they are, they still have to be done. Here are a few examples:

Take Care of Your Health

A single dad is the lifeline of the family. Parents often prioritize the health of their children over their own. But it is a little like the airline instruction concerning oxygen masks. Place your own mask in position before attempting to help someone else. You have to be healthy and conscious if you are going to have a chance to save anyone else. Saving yourself is not an option. It’s a necessity.

Because you are the lifeline of your family, you have to save yourself by doing all of the little things that you might leave undone if you had someone else to count on. Taking care of yourself includes everything from treating that suspicious cough before it turns into a full-blown flu, to using a skin tag remover. The difference between a skin tag and skin cancer is not immediately obvious. By doing what you can to deal with the little things while they are little, frees you up to take care of the kids.

Under the best of circumstances, dads are terrible when it comes to taking care of themselves. They eat poorly, exercise poorly, and develop a poor work/life balance. They tend to rely on others to remind them of their health. Single dads have to do a better job of taking care of their own health.

Ask for Help

If there is one thing men are notoriously bad at, it is asking for help when they need it. This is likely an evolutionary trait that was once extremely useful, but is now a detriment. It is not hard to imagine that a show of weakness in a tribal situation was bad for finding a good mate, and rising through the ranks of leadership.

But today, we recognize a show of vulnerability as a show of humanity. Not asking for help is viewed as a sign of arrogance, even foolishness. There is no shame in being a stay-at-home dad. Whether it be from parents, coworkers, or professional nannies, single dads need the same help as single moms. They just have to learn to ask for it.

Live a Simpler Life

There are two ways do deal with challenging life circumstances when resources are limited: The first choice is the most popular. Find a way to make more money. We are convinced that we can solve just about any problem with enough money. The second option is the road less traveled. Make a conscious decision to live a simpler life.

As a single dad, you always have the option to work more hours and hire someone to raise your kids for you. But in doing so, you miss seeing your kids grow, not to mention the opportunity to guide that growth. You will make enough money, but miss out on the reason you are working.

For context, it would help to see how people live in other parts of the world. They make less money, live in smaller homes, and still find a way to put family first. Making an intentional choice to live a simpler life is something that everyone should probably consider, especially single parents. It is doable, but the harder choice to make.

There is nothing easy about being a single dad. But you can relieve a lot of the pressure by taking better care of your health, asking for help when you need it, and choosing a simpler lifestyle. To all the single dads who are out there making the hard choices everyday, we salute you.

 

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When You Can’t Seem to Help Your Children

As many of you know, my daughter has had food allergies for quite awhile.  We learn’t how to handle that and everything has been good for quite awhile.  Just recently, my daughter got chocked a little on a cupcake.  Ever since then she is refusing to eat anything that she has to chew.  The only things that she will eat are liquid and she was already a very picky eater.   We are doing all that we can to find her new stuff to try and eat plus we are taking her to several different doctors to try and find help.  What can you do when you can’t seem to help your children?

It is so hard to see your child go though something that is so dramatic to them but in our hearts as parents we know that getting chocked and strangled is just a part of life.

Has anyone else had this problem?  If so, what did you do?  What doctors did you go see?

The hardest part of parenting, to me, is watching your child go through something like this and there doesn’t seem to be much that we can do to help.  It’s just not as simple as telling them it’s ok and then it be ok.

What problems have you as parents went through with your children?

 

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5 Ways for Parents to Make the Most Out of the Internet

Parents definitely have one of the most difficult jobs and when the kids finally are in bed, they want to relax and enjoy the quiet. This is an excellent time to enjoy some free time partaking in various hobbies, and many of these hobbies can be found online. Here are some top tips for activities that can be enjoyed.

Movie Night

Streaming online movies services such as Netflix are ideal to enjoy a movie. Either on your own or with your partner, movies can be watched on a computer or streamed easily to the television. Using a streaming movie service means that thousands of films can be selected.

Gaming

Online casino gambling is an exciting pastime for people to enjoy. Most sites such as GamingClub.com will allow users to choose between free play or for money, so you don’t actually have to risk losing any cash. Many also offer bonuses and incentives for new players which mean you can sometimes gamble and win the moolah for free.

Stay Connected

With today’s social media, sometimes you may wish to spend the evening keeping up with friends and family. It can provide them with time to hear what other friends are doing or perhaps network with other parents on blogs such as these. Facebook and Twitter are probably the most popular forms of social media for all age groups.

Exercise

Sometimes it can be hard to make the time to exercise with all the responsibilities that life brings. However, with numerous online fitness shows and programs, many use the time in the evening to exercise and improve upon their overall health. Although before embarking on a fitness regime it may seem like another chore, once you get into it it can be the perfect way to let off some steam.

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4 Ways to Get Out of the Dog House Fast

These days, who has time to be in a fight? Fighting with a spouse or significant other can drain much needed energy from our already busy lives. When it comes to apologizing, you don’t have to re-invent the wheel. Tried and true romantic gestures work like a charm and with the click of a button, you’ll be back to good in a flash. There’s something out there to help mend even the most stubborn hearts. Nip that pesky little argument in the bud and get out of the dog house before it becomes your permanent residence.

1. Sweets for your sweet

Days in the dog house can be cold, long and lonely. Getting out of there requires swallowing your pride. For your partner, a mouthful of chocolate should do the trick. We’re not talking convenience store candy here. To do this right, you’ll have to spring for the most decadent, melt-in-your-mouth sweets out there. Go for trusted names in chocolate like Godiva that give your token of affection a hand-picked touch. The best part is you can either pick up your selection of treats from one of their many boutique shops or order them online for a sweet surprise.

2. A bouquet of “sorry”

Do your calls seem to keep going straight to voicemail? Make your love known with a public display of affection she can’t ignore. No woman can resist special delivery of impressive romantic roses delivered at work for all to see. Ordering flowers seems easy enough but without the right flowers or the right timing, this grand public gesture could go very wrong. Contact a professional that guarantees your delivery will be timely and beautiful. FTD.com has flower delivery options ranging from subtle to extravagant and can be delivered the same day. For best results, schedule an early morning delivery to make her feel special all day long.

3. Date night

If your are serious about making amends, you’ll have to replace a bad memory with a good one. A romantic night on the town is just what your significant other needs to fall in love again. Don’t make this another ordinary dinner out. Take time to plan every detail and be sure to crank up the chivalry. If planning isn’t your strength, get help from sites like OpenTable.com to organize a perfect a night on the town. With the ability to make reservations instantly and read customer reviews on the spot, you’ll be back on her good side in no time.

4. Cuddle buddy

Never underestimate the power of cute. Make her feel all warm and fuzzy with a stuffed animal that reminds her of all the cuddly goodness you can provide. Build-A-Bear lets you personalize any stuffed animal to your liking. you can even add custom sound or phrase like “I love you” so she’ll never forget how you really feel. Not sorry enough to spend an afternoon at a kids’ store? Visit their website and they’ll ship it to your sweetie in a darling house shaped box.

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