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When You Can’t Seem to Help Your Children

As many of you know, my daughter has had food allergies for quite awhile.  We learn’t how to handle that and everything has been good for quite awhile.  Just recently, my daughter got chocked a little on a cupcake.  Ever since then she is refusing to eat anything that she has to chew.  The only things that she will eat are liquid and she was already a very picky eater.   We are doing all that we can to find her new stuff to try and eat plus we are taking her to several different doctors to try and find help.  What can you do when you can’t seem to help your children?

It is so hard to see your child go though something that is so dramatic to them but in our hearts as parents we know that getting chocked and strangled is just a part of life.

Has anyone else had this problem?  If so, what did you do?  What doctors did you go see?

The hardest part of parenting, to me, is watching your child go through something like this and there doesn’t seem to be much that we can do to help.  It’s just not as simple as telling them it’s ok and then it be ok.

What problems have you as parents went through with your children?



For Dads: One More Thing From Which to Protect Your Teen

middle aged father and teen kids on beach

A father’s job is never done. You may feel as though you’ve covered the bases with your teen. You’ve talked to her about safety in numbers, being a defensive driver, and the importance of choosing friends wisely. Still, there are more bases to cover.

According to a study by the Family Online Safety Institute, 51 percent of teens say they are very concerned about their identity being stolen. Your teenager is the perfect victim for someone who needs a fresh start because she is likely to have clean credit and an unblemished criminal record. For a criminal, stealing your child’s identity allows him to open new credit cards, buy things online, even rent a home and connect utilities, all using the information stolen from your teenager.

The fact that there are so many ways to steal an identity is the primary reason it is so difficult to prevent, says the experts at Lifelock. Prior to the Internet, it was a common practice for a thief to assume the identity of someone who had died, a scheme called “ghosting.” Today, it’s as simple as gathering as much information as possible from public forums and stolen bits of information.

As a father, your job is to educate your teenager and help her come up with rules for protecting her precious identity.

Personally Monitor

In Charge, a group dedicated to helping military members and their families with financial decisions, says that you should monitor your teenager’s online activity. She probably won’t like it, but look for instances in which she has provided too much personal information. Instruct her that if she is making a party announcement on Facebook, she should not include her address for random strangers to see. Tell her to leave her birth year off of any social media and to never use her entire name. For example, she might refer to herself as Daniella D, rather than Daniella Marie Davis. The less information an identity thief has, the more difficult it will be for him to assume her identity.

Learn to Ask Why

No matter who asks for your child’s social security number, find out how they are going to use it. This might include a doctor’s office, school, or insurance agent. Make sure that you know her social security number is serving a specific purpose and that it will be protected.

Personal Information

Find out what your child carries on her person. The National Crime Prevention Council says that identity thieves routinely steal purses or billfolds in search of personal information. Make sure your child does not carry her social security card, checkbook, or any other document that includes information that can be used to assume an identity. Identity thieves need only your child’s name, address and social security number to convincingly pretend they are her.

Talk to Your Teen

Perhaps the most important thing you can do to protect your teen from identity thieves is to talk to her. Explain how easy it would be for someone to steal her identity, suggests Stanford Federal Credit Union. Tell her how the misuse of her personal information can haunt her for years. Any bad credit the theives rack up will show up on her records, forcing her to go through the process of cleaning the mess up. Tell her how important it is to keep identifying information to herself and that she should never give out information over the phone or fill out a form before speaking with you.


5 Tips to Reduce the Amount of TV Your Kids Watch


Young family watching TV at home

The Kaiser Family Foundation reports kids ages 8-18 watch more than seven hours of TV a day. This is well above the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommendation, which state kids older than two should watch only one to two hours of quality TV every day. The AAP recommendation helps ensure kids spend plenty of time developing physically, socially and intellectually, thereby reducing childhood obesity and limiting exposure to televised violence, racism and risky behavior. Here are five tips to reduce the amount of TV your kids watch:

No TV in Bedrooms

Remove the TV from their bedroom. All that access to TV could make their homework, sleep and social life suffer, and they’ll see shows that depict violence, sexual promiscuity and other risky and inappropriate behavior. Put the TV in a common area of your home where you can monitor the shows your child watches.

Watch as a Family

Nielsen studies reveal the average home includes three television sets, and that’s not taking into account second screens such as mobile devices and laptop computers that stream TV shows. It’s common for parents to watch adult shows, while kids hang out with cartoons. Watching TV together, though, gives you a chance to discuss what you see. You can talk to your kids about what the media portrays in commercials and change the channel when a risky scene starts.

Use Parental Controls

Every show receives a rating that ranges from Youth (Y) to Mature Audience (MA). These ratings tell viewers what age group the show is designed for, and you can find them in your newspaper, cable or satellite’s TV guide or on the screen as a show starts. New 13-inch and larger TVs must include a V-chip (as per the Federal Trade Commission), which is a parental control that gives you the ability to block certain ratings, specific shows or entire channels. Setting it is easy; check out instructions at GetDirectTV.org or follow the guidelines in your TV’s instruction manual.

Focus on the Shows They Can Watch

Being a parent is filled with saying “no” to stuff that’s harmful to your kids, including riding a bike without a helmet and eating sugar all day. TV shows such as “Jersey Shore” and “Family Guy” would also land on the harmful list, but don’t focus on the shows your kids can’t watch. Instead, preview the shows they want to watch, and make a list of shows that are OK. Everything else is off-limits, which eliminates confusion over what your kids can watch.

Make TV Time Intentional

Matthew Lapierre, communications studies assistant professor at the University of North Carolina – Wilmington, found a majority of families leave the TV on as background noise. If you do that, your kids may not be actively watching the set, but they are listening to adult content. Eliminate this harmful habit when you intentionally set designated TV viewing times. Gather your kids on Sunday, look over the TV guide and write a viewing schedule for the week. With this tip, your kids still get to see their favorite approved shows, and they also have time for school, friends, exercise and activities—because the TV isn’t on all the time.


Dads Balance Work and Home


As a dad we get so caught up in doing for our family.  Work, work, work.  We have to make money so our family can survive and if we make enough we can have some extra money so our kids can do things or have things that they really want.   It’s on my mind all the time.  I want my kids to be happy and have the things that they want, but in doing so I’m away from them a lot of the time.  I want to spend more time with them and enjoy them and be there for them.  It’s so hard to balance work and home.  Making money for the family or spending time with the family.   I came across a post on a website called mydaddycool.com and it made me start to think what is really important.  You can Join the discussion at MyDaddyCool and read the post that got me thinking about it by clicking the link.

One member of the site was quoted as saying,

“In 2013 it is so incredibly hard to focus. We are being pulled in a million different directions by a multitude of forces. There are distractions everywhere. One way I have been able to live in the moment and improve my focus is by meditating and practicing yoga. Buy a yoga mat, ear plugs and candles. Tune out of the world for at least fifteen minutes every single day and perform yoga techniques as well as meditating.”

While this might not work for every dad, it is a great example of thinking outside the box and it works for him.

As dads, it’s so hard to balance work and home.  We all want what’s best for our family, but how do we go about it?  What is the right mix for work and home?  Comment and tell us what works best for you and your family.  Share your stories and help other dads out.


5 Frighteningly Healthy Halloween Treats For School-Age Kids


There’s no better way to ruin your healthy kick than with a series of sugar-laden Halloween festivities. This is a dangerous time indeed, and not just in terms of ghosts and ghouls! With all the sweet treats floating around, the maintenance of good oral health is more difficult than ever. As the experts from Kool Smiles point out, brushing those teeth is not enough to maintain a healthy and attractive smile; a healthy diet is also a necessity. But depriving your kids of Halloween treats can wind up backfiring, as they’re likely to get their hands on candy one way or another. Dressing up healthy alternatives in a creative and spooky manner can encourage kids to keep their Halloween festivities frighteningly healthy. So take a look at these 5 Healthy Halloween Treats for children.

Apple Lantern

Image by kellinahandbasket via Flickr.

If you’re on the hunt for an easy way to add interest to your child’s pre-Halloween school lunch, all you need is an apple and a knife. Instead of simply chucking the apple into the lunch bag, use your knife to etch the iconic triangle eyes an evil grin of a jack-o’-lantern. Older children can also participate in this food decoration project.

Hat Sand-Witches

Round out that Halloween school lunch by spicing up that traditional peanut butter and jelly sandwich. All you need are the usual sandwich ingredients, plus a knife for cutting the sandwich into the shape of a witch hat. For a delicious at-home alternative, make a grilled cheese sandwich and then complete the same wizardry with your bread knife.

Fruity Eyeballs

This simple eyeball recipe checks all the necessary boxes for a good Halloween snack; it’s easy to prepare, incredibly nutritious and tasty to boot! All you need is a banana or two, plus dried apricots and raisins. Cut up the banana into small, round pieces and then have your kids place dried apricots on top of these slices. The pupils of the eyeballs can be formed from raisins, which are then placed on top of the apricots.

Healthy Popcorn Balls

Here’s a classic Halloween treat that not only can you prepare with your kids’ assistance, you can also pass them out to ensure that trick-or-treaters also get their dose of healthy food. Use an air popper to ensure that your snack is low on calories. And instead of the usual corn syrup, healthy eating experts from the Organic Authority suggest heating up half a cup of honey, one stick of butter, a pinch of cinnamon and two tablespoons of olive oil in a saucepan. Next, coat the popcorn and shape into balls with your hands. For a unique twist, throw in raisins, dried cranberries or peanut butter.

Spider Web Pita Pizza

If you’ve ever fallen for the temptation of skipping the meal preparation process and tossing a Lunchable box in a backpack, you’ve likely laid eyes on the highly-acclaimed (among kids, that is) Lunchable pizza. But with minimal effort, you can put together your own healthy and Halloween-themed version of this school lunch classic. Use a round pita pocket as the base, and then spread tomato sauce on top. Take strips of string cheese and place on the pita in a radial pattern to create the web. You can either leave as is or pop it in the oven for a minute or two in order to melt the cheese ever so slightly.