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How Dads Can Get Healthy Looking Skin

A lot of dads don’t often think about skin care. They have too many other things going on in their day, such as taking care of children, trying to be the best husbands they can be, and juggling the demands of family and work life.

Some put off skin care because they think it’s not a “manly” thing to care about. Yet all men care about their appearance and how well they are able to attract the opposite sex — even if that means just being more attractive to their wives so that they enjoy a more exciting romantic life.

Men can’t follow the same skin care routine as women and expect results. We have special needs and must adapt the appropriate routine.

Here are a few things you can do to get healthy skin as a dad:

Remove Blemishes

Before you start on any sort of routine, take a look at your face. Things like skin tags, moles, age spots and other blemishes can make your skin look older than it is. You should see a dermatologist to determine the severity of the problem, and then you can use simple natural products such as this mole remover, lotions that remove skin tags and more. You can also look towards a variety of other treatments that can reduce the appearance of age spots and other discoloration.

Cleanse Daily

Cleansing your skin every day may seem like an overly simplistic recommendation for healthy skin, but it is such an important yet overlooked step that it must be mentioned.

A lot of men just grab the bar of soap and run it over their face as well as their body while they are showering, but soap is overly drying. It can easily cause your skin all manner of problems. Soap will either dry out your skin, or it will cause your oil glands to go into overdrive and make your skin oily and prone to acne.

Men typically have larger pores than women, so they are prone to more breakouts and other skin problems from dirty skin or overactive oil glands. Choose a cleanser that is both strong enough to get results but gentle enough not to irritate the skin or the oil glands. Cleanse your skin at least once a day.

Exfoliate Regularly

Without regular exfoliation, dead skin cells will accumulate on the skin and cause it to look duller and older. Your skin will look tired even if you aren’t.

Yet too much exfoliation can cause irritation that can cause breakouts and redness. Choose a mild exfoliant, such as a face scrub, and use it a few times a week. Don’t use it every day, or you’ll irritate the skin.

Use the Right Shaving Products

Shaving can irritate your skin like nothing else. If you don’t use the right shaving products your skin will end up dry and bumpy.

Always shave with a proper shaving cream, not just soap and water. The cream will protect your skin against irritation from the razor and it will also moisturize your skin.

Follow up with an aftershave that will both moisturize your skin and help to close the pores, preventing dirt and oil from clogging them.

Moisturize Daily

You may not care about having soft skin, but your lady sure cares if you do. If you want her snuggling against you, make your skin more inviting by moisturizing it.

Moisturizing also makes your skin look younger and reduces the formation of fine lines and wrinkles. Use a daily moisturizer after you wash your face, and consider a deeper moisturizer for night time.

Pay special attention to the area around your eyes, which show the signs of aging first. Consider using a special night cream in addition to your daily moisturizer.

Choose a moisturizer that has sunscreen in it so that you also protect your skin from the damaging (and aging) rays of the sun. This also means you won’t have to apply sunscreen separately.

There’s nothing more manly than being irresistible to your lady. One way that you can do that is to create beautiful and healthy skin. You’ll also feel pretty great about yourself when you look in the mirror, and that will boost your confidence in other areas of your life. Use these simple tips to get healthy looking skin.

 

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Single Fatherhood: Taking Care of Them Means Taking Care of Yourself

‘Single father': it is tough to think of two scarier words for a man. There are all kinds of heroes in the world. Fire fighters, police officers, soldiers, doctors: all are heroes. None are any more heroic than single dads. Unfortunately, they do not get the recognition they deserve.

There are responsibilities common to all parents. Being a single dad makes even the most common parenting tasks exponentially more difficult. Some parenting tasks are even tougher for single dads in this society than for single moms. But as difficult as they are, they still have to be done. Here are a few examples:

Take Care of Your Health

A single dad is the lifeline of the family. Parents often prioritize the health of their children over their own. But it is a little like the airline instruction concerning oxygen masks. Place your own mask in position before attempting to help someone else. You have to be healthy and conscious if you are going to have a chance to save anyone else. Saving yourself is not an option. It’s a necessity.

Because you are the lifeline of your family, you have to save yourself by doing all of the little things that you might leave undone if you had someone else to count on. Taking care of yourself includes everything from treating that suspicious cough before it turns into a full-blown flu, to using a skin tag remover. The difference between a skin tag and skin cancer is not immediately obvious. By doing what you can to deal with the little things while they are little, frees you up to take care of the kids.

Under the best of circumstances, dads are terrible when it comes to taking care of themselves. They eat poorly, exercise poorly, and develop a poor work/life balance. They tend to rely on others to remind them of their health. Single dads have to do a better job of taking care of their own health.

Ask for Help

If there is one thing men are notoriously bad at, it is asking for help when they need it. This is likely an evolutionary trait that was once extremely useful, but is now a detriment. It is not hard to imagine that a show of weakness in a tribal situation was bad for finding a good mate, and rising through the ranks of leadership.

But today, we recognize a show of vulnerability as a show of humanity. Not asking for help is viewed as a sign of arrogance, even foolishness. There is no shame in being a stay-at-home dad. Whether it be from parents, coworkers, or professional nannies, single dads need the same help as single moms. They just have to learn to ask for it.

Live a Simpler Life

There are two ways do deal with challenging life circumstances when resources are limited: The first choice is the most popular. Find a way to make more money. We are convinced that we can solve just about any problem with enough money. The second option is the road less traveled. Make a conscious decision to live a simpler life.

As a single dad, you always have the option to work more hours and hire someone to raise your kids for you. But in doing so, you miss seeing your kids grow, not to mention the opportunity to guide that growth. You will make enough money, but miss out on the reason you are working.

For context, it would help to see how people live in other parts of the world. They make less money, live in smaller homes, and still find a way to put family first. Making an intentional choice to live a simpler life is something that everyone should probably consider, especially single parents. It is doable, but the harder choice to make.

There is nothing easy about being a single dad. But you can relieve a lot of the pressure by taking better care of your health, asking for help when you need it, and choosing a simpler lifestyle. To all the single dads who are out there making the hard choices everyday, we salute you.

 

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When You Can’t Seem to Help Your Children

As many of you know, my daughter has had food allergies for quite awhile.  We learn’t how to handle that and everything has been good for quite awhile.  Just recently, my daughter got chocked a little on a cupcake.  Ever since then she is refusing to eat anything that she has to chew.  The only things that she will eat are liquid and she was already a very picky eater.   We are doing all that we can to find her new stuff to try and eat plus we are taking her to several different doctors to try and find help.  What can you do when you can’t seem to help your children?

It is so hard to see your child go though something that is so dramatic to them but in our hearts as parents we know that getting chocked and strangled is just a part of life.

Has anyone else had this problem?  If so, what did you do?  What doctors did you go see?

The hardest part of parenting, to me, is watching your child go through something like this and there doesn’t seem to be much that we can do to help.  It’s just not as simple as telling them it’s ok and then it be ok.

What problems have you as parents went through with your children?

 

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For Dads: One More Thing From Which to Protect Your Teen

middle aged father and teen kids on beach

A father’s job is never done. You may feel as though you’ve covered the bases with your teen. You’ve talked to her about safety in numbers, being a defensive driver, and the importance of choosing friends wisely. Still, there are more bases to cover.

According to a study by the Family Online Safety Institute, 51 percent of teens say they are very concerned about their identity being stolen. Your teenager is the perfect victim for someone who needs a fresh start because she is likely to have clean credit and an unblemished criminal record. For a criminal, stealing your child’s identity allows him to open new credit cards, buy things online, even rent a home and connect utilities, all using the information stolen from your teenager.

The fact that there are so many ways to steal an identity is the primary reason it is so difficult to prevent, says the experts at Lifelock. Prior to the Internet, it was a common practice for a thief to assume the identity of someone who had died, a scheme called “ghosting.” Today, it’s as simple as gathering as much information as possible from public forums and stolen bits of information.

As a father, your job is to educate your teenager and help her come up with rules for protecting her precious identity.

Personally Monitor

In Charge, a group dedicated to helping military members and their families with financial decisions, says that you should monitor your teenager’s online activity. She probably won’t like it, but look for instances in which she has provided too much personal information. Instruct her that if she is making a party announcement on Facebook, she should not include her address for random strangers to see. Tell her to leave her birth year off of any social media and to never use her entire name. For example, she might refer to herself as Daniella D, rather than Daniella Marie Davis. The less information an identity thief has, the more difficult it will be for him to assume her identity.

Learn to Ask Why

No matter who asks for your child’s social security number, find out how they are going to use it. This might include a doctor’s office, school, or insurance agent. Make sure that you know her social security number is serving a specific purpose and that it will be protected.

Personal Information

Find out what your child carries on her person. The National Crime Prevention Council says that identity thieves routinely steal purses or billfolds in search of personal information. Make sure your child does not carry her social security card, checkbook, or any other document that includes information that can be used to assume an identity. Identity thieves need only your child’s name, address and social security number to convincingly pretend they are her.

Talk to Your Teen

Perhaps the most important thing you can do to protect your teen from identity thieves is to talk to her. Explain how easy it would be for someone to steal her identity, suggests Stanford Federal Credit Union. Tell her how the misuse of her personal information can haunt her for years. Any bad credit the theives rack up will show up on her records, forcing her to go through the process of cleaning the mess up. Tell her how important it is to keep identifying information to herself and that she should never give out information over the phone or fill out a form before speaking with you.

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