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Family => Divorced With Kids => Topic started by: Keith on February 02, 2006, 09:52:13 AM

Title: Child support
Post by: Keith on February 02, 2006, 09:52:13 AM
Years ago when I first got divorced I got custody of my 2 boys.   My ex wife was supposed to pay me child support.   I didn't ask for much.   She has paid off and on.  Now for the first year she didn't pay anything.  So, after that I called child support services here in Tennessee.  They started deducting child support from her for me and all was working out fine except for back child support.  Well, a couple of mths ago she quit paying again and I have waited and waited for her to "fix" this problem. 

I called child support services this morning and they told me they were aware of this and that they are going after her and even told me the amount that she owes me in backpay.  I was surprised!  They also told me that they were going to take as much of her Income Tax money as they could to get me caught up!   I am very excited about that because bills have gotten behind with having 2 boys in school and now a little 1 yr old girl.   

They also told me they were setting up a court date to take my ex to court on and that I had to be there as well.     So, wish me luck.
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: Madd_Mike on April 18, 2007, 01:42:18 AM
Good Luck!
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: Keith on April 18, 2007, 08:22:32 AM
Thanks Mike for reminding me about this thread.   LOL

*UPDATE*

We never went back to court.   But with the help of the Tennessee Child Support System I have been getting my child support now.   She is still behind a couple of thousand dollars, but they are supposed to intercept her IRS check and get me caught up..  She within the next couple of weeks, she should be caught up and everything back on track...
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: MindBender on April 23, 2007, 08:04:10 AM
Good for you...

my ex is supposed to pay a whole $97.00 a month and instead she chooses to send the Department of Child Support here a whole $11.00 a month for the past 5 months now.... but.

I don't really care about the money.  I care more that she hasn't taken the time to come see Emily but 3 times since Jan. 9th, 2006.
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: Keith on April 23, 2007, 08:13:13 AM
Hey Brandon..   Glad to see you around!

I don't really care about the money.  I care more that she hasn't taken the time to come see Emily but 3 times since Jan. 9th, 2006.

My boys are in the same boat..   Their real mom hasn't seen them in about a year and half.     

What have mothers become now-a-days.
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: MindBender on April 23, 2007, 08:28:13 AM
I got no idea whats up with mothers.
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: Frobozz on April 23, 2007, 08:33:50 AM
I got no idea whats up with mothers.

 :LMAO:
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: MindBender on April 23, 2007, 09:33:20 AM
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Title: Re: Child support
Post by: Swoffords Dad on June 14, 2007, 07:57:06 PM
Hey Brandon..   Glad to see you around!

I don't really care about the money.  I care more that she hasn't taken the time to come see Emily but 3 times since Jan. 9th, 2006.

My boys are in the same boat..   Their real mom hasn't seen them in about a year and half.     

What have mothers become now-a-days.


A couple of decades ago this sort of behaviour was very unlikely from women, but society as a whole I believe has made this more acceptable behaviour at the expense of the children

I would venture to say that 99% of the people that come to Forums like this one (and it is a very good one) because we are genuinely in love with our children. However the world is made up of people of all shapes and sizes with all kinds of beliefs and moral structure to each his own and not everyone will be as dedicated as most of us, and there are some that are more dedicated...for the child its just the luckof the draw I guess.

Sometimes I think people should have a licence and sit exams and a special two year course before being allowed to have children  :shrug:
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: Keith on June 14, 2007, 08:51:00 PM
Sometimes I think people should have a licence and sit exams and a special two year course before being allowed to have children  :shrug:

I agree with you 100%!         :up:
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: SingleDaddieOf2 on March 15, 2009, 12:49:00 PM
yea mothers...what can you say...my ex took off 3 years ago and has supposed to pay $250 a month for child support and she still hasn't paid a red cent.  The child support people say they cant find her even though I gave them her phone number and where she was and that she just had another baby...not mine thank god...I don't care about the money but honestly just take care of your responsibilities
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: Keith on March 15, 2009, 08:14:20 PM
yea mothers...what can you say...my ex took off 3 years ago and has supposed to pay $250 a month for child support and she still hasn't paid a red cent.  The child support people say they cant find her even though I gave them her phone number and where she was and that she just had another baby...not mine thank god...I don't care about the money but honestly just take care of your responsibilities

I know Ken.   What gets me is that if it were the other way around, the men would be put in jail for not paying child support.   Why is it that way?
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: SingleDaddieOf2 on March 15, 2009, 08:47:33 PM
I wish I knew...I don't understand why our court system favors women in child support and custody battles...some of us men out here are really good dads and even better then the moms in cases but somehow that doesnt get across.  We always get a bad rap.
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: Keith on March 15, 2009, 09:14:36 PM
I know what you mean.   I just got child support from my ex.   DCS intercepted my ex's refund check and got her caught up that way.   That's 3 years in a roll that I have got the money..
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: SingleDaddieOf2 on March 15, 2009, 11:01:50 PM
Thats good!  My ex never worked when we were together and I doubt she works now so I don't think I'll get anything from that :(
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: Keith on March 16, 2009, 06:43:52 AM
Thats good!  My ex never worked when we were together and I doubt she works now so I don't think I'll get anything from that :(

I know how disheartening that is..   I wish you luck, but I don't think that the police or the courts will help you much at all..   Probably not even taking her back to court if they say they can't find her..
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: SingleDaddieOf2 on March 16, 2009, 01:16:52 PM
Yea I just don't care about it anymore.  All I can say is that I'm happy that at least she doesn't want to have anything to do with the kids and I.  It saves alot of heartache and trouble with the children.
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: Keith on March 16, 2009, 08:15:06 PM
It saves alot of heartache and trouble with the children.

More than you will probably ever know!    That is one GREAT thing about it.
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: jlfarris on July 02, 2009, 09:41:37 AM
You know what kills me?  I paid over 600 a month in the last 2 years my ex had them.  I get custody, and even though she's working they never took her paystubs, and ordered her to 50 bucks - the minimum.  It's a joke.  The worst part - my ex is BEHIND!  On 50 bucks a month.  She doesn't pay in a month for her kids what I do for a stinkin Xbox game, and she isn't even responsible enough to make that payment.  She makes more now, and no one has even bothered to go after her for more.  I was reviewed every stinkin year.
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: Keith on July 02, 2009, 09:44:24 AM
Sorry John.    It sucks!   Keep pushing it.  It's not right how they treat dads, but just be thankful that you have your kids.
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: Mini Man on July 02, 2009, 12:23:49 PM
That sucks, John! I'm sick of hearing about dads getting screwed over by deadbeat moms simply because they happen to be male. Thankfully we have a good rapport and joint custody of my oldest son, but I've told my wife that if his mom ever decided to take me to court for support (I provide everything for him anyway) that I'd quit all my jobs and be a bum. I won't give her a dime, she doesn't deserve it.

Just remember that the most important thing is that your children are with you now, and that is all that really matters.
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: dscottnmel on September 13, 2009, 12:30:06 PM
Anyone know if I have to go back to court when my kids from previous marriage turn 18 or graduate. I'm rounding the corner from this happening and I'm not sure how to prepare. I currently pay through payroll deduction, does that just stop automatically? Do I need to fill out paperwork, attorney?
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: vegaskiller73 on September 14, 2009, 08:46:14 AM
If they are in college or any other kind of schooling, you may still have to pay CS. I don't know your state's laws but when the kids turn 18, they should stop drafting money out of your payroll.
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: Scott H. on September 14, 2009, 08:59:51 AM
Check your divorce papers to see what it says, and take a copy of it to your HR.
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: Aftrthought051 on September 14, 2009, 09:02:23 AM
Again, this is Louisiana.  So when your kids turn 18, yes it is technically suppose to stop, but never trust the system.  You should definitely contact your attorney though, or the state case worker, just to make sure that this is noted and will take place.  Most are automated, but checking twice never hurts.  If your kids go to college, you will be required to keep them on medical insurance until school is complete.  Again, this is LA and it does differ from state to state. 
Title: Re: Child support
Post by: Magna on April 26, 2010, 05:47:54 PM
i'm not having such a good day myself but can honestly say this topic made me feel a little bit better. it sucks, and i'm sorry to hear about your troubles with getting some financial help from your ex but where i live (in canada) a man collecting child support from a mother who for whatever reason didn't get custody by default it almost unheard of. kinda makes me feel like there is hope after all :)