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Re: Yelling
« Reply #15 on: March 29, 2011, 10:57:35 AM »
I can lose my cool and find myself yelling in certain situations...but yelling at my pre-schooler rarely happens. For me, it's not a constructive method of disciplining kids. I was raised by non-scolding parents, to start with...When I feel that my temper is about to get out of control, I practice 'time out' with myself or with my kid. Like what Bill said, I step outside or I let my kid go to his room, then I talk to him afterwards.

this is something that i am continuing to work on.  I have a tendancy to raise my voice too quickly, too often.  So i need to consciously work on this.
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Re: Yelling
« Reply #16 on: March 29, 2011, 11:11:04 AM »
I can lose my cool and find myself yelling in certain situations...but yelling at my pre-schooler rarely happens. For me, it's not a constructive method of disciplining kids. I was raised by non-scolding parents, to start with...When I feel that my temper is about to get out of control, I practice 'time out' with myself or with my kid. Like what Bill said, I step outside or I let my kid go to his room, then I talk to him afterwards.

this is something that i am continuing to work on.  I have a tendancy to raise my voice too quickly, too often.  So i need to consciously work on this.
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Re: Yelling
« Reply #17 on: March 29, 2011, 01:23:37 PM »
Yes it is normal.  No it is not productive.  If you feel your temper boiling over, do yourself and them a favour and remove yourself from it for a moment.  "Sit down, don't move, we're going to talk about this in a minute." and step outside, take a few deep breaths and evaluate how best to respond.  Remember to keep it short and on point.  My dad used to ramble on and on when I was in trouble and within about 45 seconds of realizing it was just a calm tirade I tuned out and only listened for key words and phrases.

I couldn't agree more.  I consider myself lucky to figure out that arguing with emotion solves absolutely nothing.  It's incredibly rare for me to raise my voice.
 

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Re: Yelling
« Reply #18 on: March 29, 2011, 07:33:09 PM »
I yell at my kids too.   It's not something that I mean to do, it just happens. 

I don't think they learn from it, I think I just scare them.   Now sometimes I yell when I notice that they are getting ready to hurt themselves or someone else.  In that case, I think it's ok to yell.   Sometimes they need some sense yelled into them.

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Re: Yelling
« Reply #19 on: March 29, 2011, 07:45:22 PM »
my boy is only 3, but usually just raising my voice is enough.   
otherwise the threat of a swat on the butt, knowing he has until i reach 5 before a swat comes is enough to get him to comply.

i dread the day  he starts backtalking.



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Re: Yelling
« Reply #20 on: March 29, 2011, 07:48:52 PM »
i dread the day  he starts backtalking.

It is sooner than you think.   :(    They start young, or at least mine did.

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Re: Yelling
« Reply #21 on: March 29, 2011, 09:54:31 PM »
my son is 4 and he is doing the back talking.  He's a stubborn one.  Gets it from his mother



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Re: Yelling
« Reply #22 on: March 29, 2011, 11:09:26 PM »
yea Quinn (4 y/o) has started the back talking also.  Driving me nuts.  lol

 



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