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Heimdallt

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Depression and raising kids
« on: February 07, 2012, 06:57:41 PM »
I have been battling depression for 2 years. Doing all the classes and groups I can do so it does not effect my fathering but it is hard.

I have number of major stresses such as bankruptcy, lack of my family my parents and brothers and sisters do not communicate with me. My wife's family is very destructive and highly uneducated. My wife after the last child has been showing signs of OCD and a personality disorder. Which makes me feel horrible and she will lose it at any point.

Just wondering if anyone has had similar paths in life, or has any help
 


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Re: Depression and raising kids
« Reply #1 on: February 07, 2012, 08:36:30 PM »
Sorry to hear all of that man.    Life is rough now-a-days.   I have kids with ADHD and OCD.   It is very tough handling this.  Some good in it though is that it doesn't happen everyday.   There are some good days.

Really the only true piece of advice I can give you is to talk to your doctor and see if your wife will do the same.  There are some great meds out there that can help.   The problem is just finding the right one that works for you.

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« Reply #2 on: February 07, 2012, 09:02:37 PM »
Sorry to hear all of that man.    Life is rough now-a-days.   I have kids with ADHD and OCD.   It is very tough handling this.  Some good in it though is that it doesn't happen everyday.   There are some good days.

Really the only true piece of advice I can give you is to talk to your doctor and see if your wife will do the same.  There are some great meds out there that can help.   The problem is just finding the right one that works for you.

I have tried getting my wife o get checked but I think she won't go because if she does get diagnosed then she knows she has a problem, but of she does not. Then she has no problems.

It's hard


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Re: Depression and raising kids
« Reply #3 on: February 08, 2012, 06:40:55 AM »
I understand where your at then.   I guess I would just keep talking to her about it.  She is probably gonna get mad, but you gotta do what you gotta do.

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Re: Depression and raising kids
« Reply #4 on: February 08, 2012, 10:37:21 AM »
Does she realize when she's doing something different? I can understand the denial but she must notice herself doing things others don't



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« Reply #5 on: February 08, 2012, 01:05:16 PM »
Does she realize when she's doing something different? I can understand the denial but she must notice herself doing things others don't

Oh she does and she will admit it at that time. We will schedule in appointment for her but once she snaps back it's "I'm not going it's you who is f^cked up"

I makes it impossible to do anything,

Somedays are better then others. It has been less common out bursts but now when it happens she will punch me, kick me and threaten me.

It has had a lasting problem with anxiety and nerves or me






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Re: Depression and raising kids
« Reply #6 on: February 08, 2012, 01:54:59 PM »
I know someone who has/is going through the same thing.  Somehow you need to get her to understand that person is not the person that you fell in love with and married.  There's no shame in taking some meds to restore her old self.  The way it was explained to me is that it's a chemical imbalance.  Most people are able to produce whatever chemical it is to get past that.  She needs a little help.  Once she gets re-balanced then she won't need the meds anymore



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Re: Depression and raising kids
« Reply #7 on: February 09, 2012, 10:36:07 AM »

I know someone who has/is going through the same thing.  Somehow you need to get her to understand that person is not the person that you fell in love with and married.  There's no shame in taking some meds to restore her old self.  The way it was explained to me is that it's a chemical imbalance.  Most people are able to produce whatever chemical it is to get past that.  She needs a little help.  Once she gets re-balanced then she won't need the meds anymore


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