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Child Custody Agreements and Single Fathers
« on: May 13, 2015, 02:18:19 PM »
I've written another piece on child custody agreements and how single fathers can deal with the situation.

A child custody agreement is often one of the most difficult parts of a divorce or when an unmarried couple separates. As adults, you and your former partner know that your decision to part ways is the healthiest and wisest choice you can make. If it was just the two of you, it would be a relatively easy split with a few months of heartbreak and then moving onward. Add a child and the split becomes anything but easy and copacetic. Creating a fair and sensible child custody agreement can seem like an impossible task, particularly when you and your soon-to-be ex have different ideas of how to split your time with your child.

If you are a father going through a custody battle, you know that child custody agreements can get ugly, they can get personal, and sometimes they get so out of hand and focus on everything but the child. In the end, in order for an agreement to work, parents need to agree on the best interest of the child.

Types of Child Custody Arrangements

There are three standard child custody agreements. Although each type is meant to benefit the child and is enacted with a “child’s best interest”, as a father you may be negatively affected. Additionally, custody may either be legal or physical. Legal custody is in regards to the legal authority to make important decisions on behalf of a minor. Such decisions include, but are not limited to education, religion, medical care (i.e. not emergencies), and educational facility. Physical custody is in regards to a child’s residence a majority of the time.

Sole Custody: One parent has legal and physical custody of the child. A majority of sole custody parents are the mother; only about 1 in 9 fathers are a custodial parent. If this is the case in your custodial agreement, you have little to no say in your child’s upbringing (in terms of education, religion, and other life decisions). Additionally, your child will most likely not live at your residence, which can cause a noticeable physical and emotional distance from your child.

Joint Custody: In this agreement, both parents share physical and/or legal custody of their child. To many, this is an “ideal” arrangement because parents can build a schedule that works well for their child and as a result, children get to see both parents equally (in most cases). Joint custody agreements may still require child support payments.

Once such payments are determined (in any type of custody) it’s important to make full payments on time. “ If a parent does not pay child support, past due payments will accumulate, and the court has the authority to hold a child support payer in contempt for nonpayment”, says Charles R. Ullman, Attorney at Law.

Split Custody: In this custodial agreement, one parent ends up having legal and physical custody of one child and the other parent has legal/physical custody of the other(s). This particular agreement can be detrimental for everyone involved. As a father, you have the advantage of have sole custody of one child, but are missing valuable (and unequal time) with your other child(ren).

When you and your soon-to-be ex attempt to make a “doable” custody agreement, the best option for the both of you and your child is a joint agreement. If you settle on this type of agreement, you, as a father, will have more say in your child’s life decisions.

Despite how any custodial agreement is settled, your child should remain your number one priority and he or she should be provided for financially, physically, and emotionally. Custodial agreements can be difficult, but your child needs you in his or her life.

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Re: Child Custody Agreements and Single Fathers
« Reply #1 on: July 30, 2015, 09:24:33 AM »
I think each case must be looked very personal, cause of the many different variables!


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